When we choose to be loved over loving, we will surely die. Love is connectedness that dispels the duality of self and not self. When connected by love, our finite self merges with what we love, creating a "beyond self." The "beyond self" continues beyond the lifespan of our finite self. The self that prioritizes being loved cannot be loving. It is a powerful and controlling self, but not powerful enough to survive death....
“Whoever gets angry, it is as if he worshipped idols” -- Zohar 1:27b Getting angry at some one or thing presumes it has an independent existence, like an idol. That denies the existence of God which is the interconnected oneness of every thing....
We see "its" everywhere and rarely notice "is", though all there is is is. There are two types of vision, foveal and peripheral. Foveal vision is when our eyes focus and we mentally create static images of seemingly independent things ("its"). Peripheral vision is unfocused, where all things are one undifferentiable flow; the "is". The "is" is reality; an ambiguous flow of interdependent and everchanging things beyond description, other than that it is what it is whatever it is. While 99% of our visual field is peripheral vision, we think the illusions we create through foveal vision are reality....