VAT: Choosing who we are

For Billy Pilgrim in Slaughterhouse-Five, life happens all at once; sequential time is a creation of mind and doesn’t exist independent of mind.

While our lives happen all at once, we are a different person at each point in our lifetime story.  Each of these people are equally real, equally present. At any moment, we can choose to be whomever of these people we wish to be. While we are an amalgam of all these people, the choices we make each day cumulatively define our experience.

In the last years of my mother’s life, she was mentally clear but otherwise incapacitated; only able to be carted around in group activities in a nursing facility. Her days must have been intolerably long. I once asked her how she spends her day. She said, “oh, I am busy all day; barely have time to do anything.” What was she busy with? “Thinking about my life.”